Which To-Go Orders You Tip and Which You Don’t

Which To-Go Orders You Tip and Which You Don't

By: Maralee McKee, Manners Mentor

When it comes to food, we now have more take-out options than ever. That leads a lot of folks to ask which to-go orders you tip and which you don’t. Not only that, but for the orders we tip, how much should we give? Is it the standard 20 percent we leave when dining in the restaurant, or is it less since our food was bagged for us but no one is actually serving us?

Because of the rise in eating restaurant food at home, I get asked a lot about when a tip is necessary and about how much of a gravity to leave.

(If you happen not to be eating in the restaurant because bringing your young children out seems like more than you can handle at the moment, check out this post I wrote about why there is a boom in restaurants banning children. Yikes! Should Unruly Children Be Banned from Restaurants?)

Also, there seem to be tip jars sprouting up everywhere from butcher shops to bakeries — places where, five years ago, you never would have seen one.

Here’s a question a reader emailed me. (BTW, if you have an etiquette question, you can send it to me at: Maralee@MannersMentor.com. I’ll do my best to get it answered!) In order to shield the identity of the writer, I don’t usually include the actual text of the letter. Instead, I write the essence of it. Yet, this was a case in which “we’ve all been there,” so I knew you’d want to read it just like I received it.

Dear Maralee,

Thank you for putting your time into teaching something that really matters!

Last week I went to Red Lobster®. I was in a hurry and ordered ahead for takeout so that when I got there, I could pick-up the food and leave. They gave me my bill, and I paid by credit card. There was a place to leave a tip on the receipt, so I did.

My question is this: In a situation where I’m not being served, should I still leave a tip?

I talked it over with several people at the office when I got back, but no one seemed to have a solid answer. Thanks for your help on this one!

Which To-Go Orders Do You Tip?

The  Answer:

You were correct to tip!

Any time you’re picking up a to-go order from anything other than a drive-through window, it’s standard practice to leave a gratuity (a monetary thank you) for the special service provided by the person who prepared your order. (And it was a special service for you in that you got to eat the food you were craving, and eat it away from the restaurant to save you the extra time you needed that day.)

But still, why tip for something that just took a few minutes to bag up, when if you were eating in the restaurant, that same person would be serving you for maybe an hour or so?

There are a couple of reasons:

First, even if a sit-down restaurant advertises to-go service, it’s a special offering, and not the norm. You tip for this service for the same reason you tip the person who delivers room service when you’re staying at a hotel.

Tip 20 percent on the cost of the food for room service. You might (with a 99 percent likelihood!) see a service fee of anywhere from 15-22 percent of the room service total added to your bill when it’s delivered. That’s a fee charged by the hotel and kept by the hotel.

None of that goes to the hard-working person who wheeled your meal from the kitchen, up to the tenth floor where you’re staying, and down a labyrinth of hallways to deliver it so you could eat comfy-cozy in your room! There are several special tipping circumstances when it comes to traveling and vacation tipping. You’ll find them here.

 

TIP JAR WITH MONEY REVISION 1

Now, back again to why we need to tip….

Secondly, the person handing you the order is often a waiter earning the main portion of his wages on tips. He’s usually paid $2-$5 an hour (well below minimum wage), with the rest of his income earned through tips.

Even if the person who is actually handing you your meal is the hostess, more than likely it was boxed-up in the kitchen, brought to the hostess stand, and set down next to her by a server. When servers are on “to-go duty,” that takes time away from providing service at their in-house tables and limits the number of diners they can seat in their section because of the demands of filling to-go orders. On a busy evening, a restaurant can have 15 to 20 or more to-go orders, leaving the server no time to wait regular tables.

Please note: This isn’t always the case. Sometimes, to-go orders are taken care of by the hostess or the kitchen staff (persons earning minimum wage or above). To be sure, just ask when placing your order: “I was wondering, are curb-side orders prepared tonight by the serving staff, the hostesses, or the kitchen staff?” They’ll be glad to answer your question, and you’ll best know how to tip that evening.

How Much Should We Tip?

If people other than the serving staff (waiter/waitress) prepared your order, the tip is rather minimal — ten percent of the bill or $3.00, whichever is more. (Due to the slowdown in the economy with fewer people eating out, the standard tip when dining in restaurants is now 20 percent, and increasing to 25 percent. 15 percent is gone.)

If a waiter or waitress prepared your order, tip slightly higher to make up for the dip in that person’s income due to having fewer tables to wait on. Tip 15 percent or $3.00, whichever is more.Which To-Go Orders You Tip and Which You Don't

Why Don’t We Tip at Fast Food Restaurants, and What About All the Tip Jars at Bakeries, Butcher Shops and Anywhere Else?

One last question you might have: If this is all correct, then why don’t we tip at the drive-through window of quick-service restaurants like Chick-fil-A® ?

Answer: Those associates are working diligently to serve you, but are considered in restaurant terms as filling an order, or completing a task, not providing a special service, since to-go windows are a standard part of each restaurant.

Plus — and this is the most important part — those associates are paid minimum wage or more.

Keep in mind that none of the income is tip-based for workers at fast food restaurants, associates at Starbucks or other coffee houses, or your butcher, baker or candlestick maker; so the lack of a tip isn’t causing them to earn less than minimum wage while serving you.

A tip for your morning coffee run isn’t necessary unless your order is something off the standard menu or you make more than one special request. Ordering your latte “extra-hot” shouldn’t be a problem. Ordering an “extra-hot, extra foam, two shots of espresso, vanilla soy latte” is a lot to ask.  Go ahead and say thank you not only verbally, but with a 20 percent tip (round up), too!

At the holidays, if you’re a regular in a restaurant or coffee house, you’ll want to tip your favorite server or barista a little something extra. Here’s how much to give.

What If You Receive Bad Service? 

If you receive bad service, speak to the manager and still leave the minimum tip. You could drop your tip from 20 percent to 15 percent, but still talk to the manager. Why? Because waiter Walter isn’t going to learn a thing from the experience if neither you nor the manager says anything to him. He simply will think you’re cheap and wanted to get out of tipping by making up an excuse to rate his service bad (he doesn’t recognize it was bad). Tip, and let the manager, someone who has earned the right to speak into Walter’s life, talk to him and give him the extra training he needs.

You Tend to Get in Life What You Give in Life

When it comes to tipping, a lot of people want to get super technical. It’s as if paying an extra dollar would cause their personal economy to collapse. The thing is, if you have the money to eat food not prepared at home, you have the money to tip.

Being frugal is important, but being frugal is when you deny yourself. Being stingy is when you deny someone else. It’s a thin wire that’s easy to trip over.

So tip generously!

You have no idea what a blessing your extra few dollars will be in their lives. When all their tips are added up, it might make the difference in the health care they can provide for themselves or their children. It might keep the electricity on in their home. You might make their child’s Christmas wish come true. If they don’t want to work in the restaurant industry as a career, you might be contributing to their education fund so that if their dream is to be a programmer, an accountant, a PR expert, or a first-chair violinist, your dollars might be the ones that give them the ability to keep attending college or even put them over the finish line.

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Hugs,

Which To-Go Orders You Tip and Which You Don't

Maralee McKee

About Maralee McKee

Maralee McKee is the founder of Manners Mentor. With her best friend style, sense of humor, and knack for updating etiquette to meet our modern sensibilities, she has been referred to as "Sandra Bullock meets Emily Post!" Maralee shows you how to become the best version of yourself. No fluff. No pretense. Just you at your authentic best! The person you were always meant to be! Maralee is a native and life-long resident of Orlando. Before entering the etiquette arena, she worked in management and ministry. She's proud to be Kent's wife and Marc and Corbet's mom. She hates laundry, and loves quality tea, London, and Savannah, Southern cooking, dressing up and dressing down, and Miss Lilly the Wonder Sheltie. You can find her picture if you scroll to the footer of this page. Isn't she the cutest dog ever?!!! PS: Because everyone always asks her, "What's your etiquette pet peeve?" It's people who talk on their phones in public restrooms. The person on the other end of the phone must wonder, "What's that noise. It sounds like....no, it couldn't be." Plus, everyone else in the bathroom is held hostage to a one-sided conversation usually shouted to try and cover up the noises. It would be comical if it weren't so...so....just plain wrong on many levels. ;)

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