Q & A: The Roles of Godparents & Applying Make-up in Public

Q & A Day: The Role of Godparents & Applying Makeup in Public

By: Maralee McKee, Manners Mentor

Hello and welcome to Q&A Day!

This week there’s a special question about the role of godparents as the baby grows up and a tip on when and whether it’s appropriate to apply makeup in public.

This is a short-answer day. Let’s get right to our two questions!

The Roles of Godparents and Applying Makeup in Public

Question:

Dear Maralee,

Love your blog! Thank you for all you do!

A family member of mine is trying to have a baby, and the couple has insisted I’m going to be the godmother. They didn’t even ask me; they just implied that I would fit the bill perfectly.

I never had godparents. I really don’t know what that means or what I’m supposed to do throughout the child’s life. All I know is that godparents end up paying for a lot of stuff!

Answer: The Role of Godparents

Being asked to be a godparent is a great honor. Congratulations! The obligations and expectations of godparents vary from culture to culture and from family to family. You could play anything from an honorary role to an integral part of the child’s spiritual upbringing. In general, a godparent’s role is to stay connected with the child in some manner throughout life.

You will be at the baby’s christening and perhaps take part in the ceremony. Most importantly, you’ll serve as a mentor and take the symbolic place of the child’s parent of your gender if that parent passes away. (The child won’t necessarily come to live with you; a godparent is different from a legal guardian named in a will.)

If there should be a death, you would step in and create experiences the missing parent would have wanted the child to have. Fishing with a boy and teaching him to tie a tie, going with a young lady to pick out her prom dress, and walking a bride down the aisle in the place of her late father are some of the “heart gifts” you’d give to your godchild.

Presents are part of the equation, but they don’t have to be expensive or given at every occasion. You should send a Christmas and birthday card yearly, each with a handwritten note or letter. If your budget allows, you can also send gifts.

Once the parents are expecting, your best bet is to explain to them that you consider being a godparent a big responsibility. Tell them, before saying yes, that you want to know their expectations of you in that role. You might be pleasantly surprised that they don’t want anything more than for you to have the honor of the title.

If it appears they expect more than you’re able to give, explain that the duties of godparent are too much for you. It’s better to disappoint the parents-to-be before the baby arrives than to disappoint them for the first 21 years or more of the child’s life.

I wrote more about the role of godparents in this post: Five Ways to Be a Fantastic Godmother. While the title implies that the article is for godmothers only, everything in it that applies to them applies to godfathers, too.

 



Question:

Hi Maralee,

In public, especially when eating out, is it OK to reapply some of my makeup (powder, blush, mascara) or lipstick at the table? 

Answer: The Modern Etiquette of Applying Lipstick or Any Makeup in Public

The whole reason we use makeup is to look our best for ourselves and for others. Because of that, applying makeup, including lipstick, is what we do in preparation for being seen, not while being seen.

The best way to handle grooming needs if you’re with others is to say, “Excuse me for a moment, please,” and take care of everything behind the privacy of the bathroom door.

In addition, when at a dining table, only two things should occur — dining and conversation. Because of that, the only items that go on the table are food, beverages, and the things we need to eat or drink them with. Pulling out lipstick, mascara, powder, blush, or anything else, even if everyone has finished eating, is still using the dining table for something it’s not meant to be used for — a makeup table.

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Q & A Day: The Role of Godparents & Applying Makeup in Public

Maralee McKee

About Maralee McKee

Maralee McKee is the founder of Manners Mentor. With her best-friend style, sense of humor, and knack for updating etiquette to meet our modern sensibilities, she has been referred to as "Sandra Bullock meets Emily Post!" Maralee shows you how to become the best version of yourself. No fluff. No pretense. Just you at your authentic best! The person you were always meant to be! Maralee is a native and life-long resident of Orlando. Before entering the etiquette arena, she worked in management and ministry. She's proud to be Kent's wife and Marc and Corbet's mom. She hates laundry, and loves quality tea, London, and Savannah, Southern cooking, dressing up and dressing down, and Miss Lilly the Wonder Sheltie. You can find her picture if you scroll to the footer of this page. Isn't she the cutest dog ever?!!! PS: Because everyone always asks her, "What's your etiquette pet peeve?" It's people who talk on their phones in public restrooms. The person on the other end of the phone must wonder, "What's that noise. It sounds like....no, it couldn't be." Plus, everyone else in the bathroom is held hostage to a one-sided conversation usually shouted to try and cover up the noises. It would be comical if it weren't so...so....just plain wrong on many levels. ;)

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